Feminism
Feminism has played a role in the high rates of divorce, alienation of the genders, female chauvinism, love-shyness, the disintegration of communities, fatherless children, high school dropouts, drug addiction, consumerism, teenage pregnancy, male suicide, violent crimes, road rage, and overfilled prisons.
Conservative masculists tend to consider patriarchy as an inevitable result of the biological differences between the sexes. Some disagree that women are powerless victims of patriarchal oppression; they suggest that feminists use this idea to curtail men's rights and to justify their negative views of men. They claim this has achieved a covert matriarchy, aided by chivalry towards women that itself undermines the theory of female oppression.
It is government interference that is the problem with feminism. Back in the 1960s and early 1970s most women never wanted to go to work. They would have just loved to have a nice homemaking position with a loving and faithful husband. If the government had stayed out of it, there would never have been a feminist problem. In the early days, society reacted to feminism with disgust, it was nearly universal: women wanted no part of it. Obviuosly, it changed a lot since then, and many still think they are not feminists as they go to their jobs each morning after dropping their kids off at the day care center. How did it happen?
First, the media cranked up the propaganda machine. They started slanting the news stories in favor of feminism. When a story had a “women’s point of view” aspect to it, they ran out to get a quote from the National Organization of Women, a small group of hard core man haters. Over time that began to mold the soft brains of the TV watching public. Then they started to drop in television sitcoms, to make them appear to have a friendly face.
Step two, the Supreme Court threw out all American tradition, as well as previous court decisions, as they restructured America. There was a ruling that female reporters would be allowed by law into male locker rooms after sporting events. It was complete astonishment. Americans were a more or less prudish people who traditionally would not conceive of a lady even wanting to be in a men’s locker room, let alone having the law forcing the morals of the society to be cast aside in this way. It did not take long before there was a big scandal where a football player exposed himself to a female reporter in his own locker room and made some comment, which caused a hypocritical major uproar in the media.
Step three: next were rulings that the traditional all male "men's clubs" were no longer allowed. Since it excluded women, from a place where business might be discussed, they were disallowed. Think of the infringement on personal freedom that this entailed! Once again the American people were astounded: They discovered too late that the government that they trusted had already been taken over by feminists. The media was the primary reason why there was no revolt, as would have been expected. They put out a soothing patter of sweet sounding phrases as to how evil traditional America has been and how wonderful the new America was.
The Consolidation Phase: the brainwashing of the children. From television shows that they grew up on, to their classrooms, children were bombarded with feminist propaganda. They were told that women are the same as men and should have the same role in society. The average woman or man of the 1960s would have been outraged by that, but the propaganda worked. Today, children are freely given over, by their parents, to people who shape their little brains into liberal feminists. Women have been so brainwashed that they do not realize it anymore. Feminists have successfully blocked all forms of dissent via newspapers, the television, or the classroom. They have a great deal of control over the radio too, despite “conservative” talk shows. They were unable to ban the exercise of free speech on the Internet though and the day may come when the average American browsing the Internet will come across the truth.
Feminists should remember that they are the ones forcing their views upon people and not the opposite. What men's rights activists demand is for feminism to stand on its own two feet, instead of having a totalitarian government enforce its ideas upon the unwilling. There is nothing simple about the feminist movement. The homemaker who wanted nothing but to be a good wife and mother is forced out of the home into the market place by this movement. Her husband has been warped by political propaganda and insists that she goes out to work, like other women do. The government has found it easier to raise taxes in the process, and the family has lost its mother to feed the feminist political machine. However, it is a tragedy for the children who have been abandoned in the process. Feminists never shed any tears over the poor woman who still wants to be a housewife and homemaker. It is not sad for them that she had her dream ripped from her by a society that has no use for someone who would model the next generation of civilized human beings.
The Government had much to do with the emergence of the feminist movement. If it had not become involved through courts and the legislative process, it would not be the destructive force that it is today. It was not a popular movement to begin with and never caught on to the masses: it was truly forced upon the population by the authorities and the media propaganda.
In the 1950s America had freedom, wealth, solid families, the best schools in the world, a low crime rate, safe neighborhoods, and a very bright future. Look at it now after 60 years of feminism! Most women of the 1950s were living in luxury: they had nice homes, happy families and new devices to make work easier. They had fellow mothers to associate with, and help supervise the children during the day. The collective behaviour of men was to go out and work for the family, paying the bills and staying around to help support and raise the children.
The result of the feminist movement is that today men and women are divorced routinely; few marriages last even throughout the childrearing years. Women are forced into the workplace and left with having to work full time in addition to the full time job of homemaker. The average woman has made no gains at all; she has lost what is most dear to her: her family. She now lives the lonely life of being a divorced woman with children, struggling to make ends meet without a caring husband. Her children grow up not nurtured properly, sometimes partly raised by strangers, but most of the time on their own. Feminists continue to describe and proclaim this sad deterioration of women's lives as "progress" or "gains". This is the big lie!
FAMILY LAW
Decisions of Family Courts in the Western world showed for decades the overwhelming bias against men when it comes to access and custody of children following a divorce. In an ideal world both parents may have a meaningful involvement in their children's lives, and the children have a right to spend time on a regular basis with both of them. For too long have many men had cause only to grieve at the loss of their children. In certain instances children were left with abusive and neglectful mothers and the fathers could only watch, helpless, as their childrens lives were destroyed.
How would you feel if your son or daughter was living with a drug addicted or psychotic mother and the law prevented you from providing your child with a temporary respite from the nightmare of its existence? This is the reality for some fathers. In some of these cases, the mothers falsely accused the father of sexual abuse to protect their own position. Sadly the courts usually choose to believe the mother over the father. How many men are committing suicide every year because they feel so helpless and discriminated against?
THE MEN'S MOVEMENT IS NOT ANTI-WOMEN
Undeniably, modern men are driven by anger and sadness for what has been lost, but the men's movement is not a group of men advocating the return to "the good old days" when women were subservient and men ruled the world. The reality is that "the good old days" were not that great for men either. On the surface they had power but most men lived rather lives of quiet desparation.
The men's movement is about helping men free themselves from the destructive expectations that society puts on them. Most men are still ultimately expected to be the breadwinners in the household. They are still taught that it is a sign of weakness to cry, or show any emotions except "happy" and "angry". They still believe that it is a sign of weakness to visit a doctor or take the medication that is prescribed. Their health is still largely ignored by medical research and any funding of such is limited at best.
The men's movement is not interested in turning back the clock, nor is it interested in subjugating women. It is solely concerned with the psychological and physiological well-being of men, and the discriminations that still exist against them in the area of health care.
GENDER BIAS IN CRIMINAL JUSTICE
When it comes to the sensitive issue of child sexual abuse, the gender of the perpetrator is particularly important in determining how seriously the offence is perceived by the police. Unsurprisingly it is the males who fare poorly: after all, the stereotype of a child sexual abuser is that of a male. Cases of alleged sexual abuse perpetrated by females tend to be underestimated or dismissed as unimportant. Clearly there needs to be some serious work done, then one would have thought that the objective was to protect children regardless of the gender of the perpetrator.
Child sexual abuse is not the only place we see such bias though. Generally, female offenders are more likely to be cautioned rather than charged. It seems that we are far more lenient with a woman's criminal behaviour than in a man's case. In the juvenile justice system for instance, actions taken against male juveniles are 500% that of female juveniles, and yet evidence suggests roughly a similar nature and level of criminal behaviour in both groups.
ADOLESCENTS FACE NEW CHALLENGES
Time-poor parents, lack of tradition, no initiation or ritual ceremony for the passage into manhood, spiritual anorexia, mixed media messages (be sexy - but be good), and higher expectations in terms of material possessions, academic performance and career choices: clearly, the adolescents of today are the most vulnerable generation the world has ever seen.
TEENAGE SUICIDE IS GENDER SPECIFIC
The suicide of a teenager is always a tragic event and sadly it is mainly boys who suicide. Ironically, most of the support effort in schools tends to go to girls. This is because they are more receptive to the forms of assistance available. Boys are often considered to be "too hard" cases.
There is a fundamental difference between the way teenage boys and girls organise their respective social frameworks and this organisation is reflected in the risk of suicide. This difference means that there must be a new approach to suicide intervention specific for boys.
Teenage girls typically have close friends in whom they confide almost everything, including thoughts of suicide. Girls with few or no close friends however are less likely to confide their thoughts in others, and less likely to receive the suicide intervention assistance they need. This affects their mental health. Girls who feel isolated and friendless are at greater risk to consider suicide, just as girls who know someone who has committed suicide. The risk of a person suiciding increases by a factor 30 if a close friend or relative suicides. It seems that someone close to you suiciding somehow makes it much more acceptable for you.
The situation is quite different for boys who do not establish these types of relationships during their teenage years, many men never develop them. The social structure for boys in school is a more loosely structured "gang" type organisation. For boys, the suicide risk is reduced where large dense networks of friendships are maintained. Boys typically do not discuss their suicidal thoughts with anyone, but in these large dense organisations, it is more likely that someone will realise that suicide is being contemplated and facilitate intervention.
For both sexes a major factor in reducing suicide and suicidal thoughts is the joint participation of parents and adolescents in activities. Your teenage child may bitch about it being uncool to do things with you, but it is remarkably good for his mental health. Attending church regularly is also a reductor in suicidal thoughts, possibly because of the extended support structures that are typically provided by the church community. Fathers can help protect their adolescent boys from suicide either by doing things with them and participating in their lives, or enroling them in a number of clubs and societies or (as a last resort) taking them to church.
THE
ULTIMATE VIOLATION OF A MAN'S RIGHTS
The
Sperm Wars
The emerging practice of "harvesting" sperm from recently deceased males for the purpose of allowing their partner or mother to produce offsprings via a surrogate and egg donor is the ultimate violation of a man's rights. In all cases, the deaths of these men were unexpected and they had not previously requested this procedure.
Clearly there have been women in the past who have deliberately fallen pregnant against their partners wishes, which is a serious violation in itself. The above cases take this violation to a new level though. Not only is a child produced without consent of the father, but it is done in circumstances where the child is guaranteed not to know or benefit from it's biological father.
The underlying selfishness of such actions on behalf of these women is staggering and demonstrates a total lack of understanding of the important role that a father plays in the development of a child.
FOR MARRIAGE BLISS, KNOW THY SPOUSE
If you are engaged to be married, you are probably very excited about the whole thing; you feel the anticipation of wedded bliss with your soon to be, your other half. If she is your other half though, a word of caution: has it ever occured to you that should this marriage end abruptly, for whatever reason, you would be left as only half of a man?
You think that you are a perfect match but the reality is that you are not. Even if you have been living together for quite some time, the situation will change once you are married. There are a whole lot of expectations that people have of their spouse that they may not have of them when they are simply living together.
Your goal is of course to be happy in your married life. You should know then that the more accurate your knowledge of your partner's strengths and weaknesses is prior to the marriage, the happier you will be. It may make you happy in the short-run to think that your spouse is better than he or she actually is, but if the reality doesn’t match the image, eventually your satisfaction is going to decline.
This may seem very obvious, but it's not. People with low expections for their marriage end up happier. They do because, since they had low expectations, they do not have to use their relationship skills to try to repair it. On the other hand, those with poor relationship skills and low expectations end up not disappointed at all since the poor marriage is what they expected.
THE ROLE OF PAIN
A scar is a physical record of earlier pain that made us the complex and balanced individual that we are today. Pain is an integral part of life, we all experience it. Through medical advance though, we have come to see pain as negative. This was not always the case. Primitive cultures often viewed pain as not only unavoidable, but also a path to a more complete person. It was integral to many initiation ceremonies across the world. It vested something in a young man that he would have had difficulty gaining without it: "maturity".
Of course pain does not only arise from physical discomfort. Emotional pain has an even more profound impact on our sense of completeness as a human being. Think back to your first romantic disaster. You wouldn't want to go back to how you were then, you are probably much more comfortable with who you are now.
There are two things to learn from this:
1. The pain that you have experienced in your life is part of who you are. Discarding it is neither possible nor desirable. It gives you balance, enables you to empathise and provides a contrast that enables you to enjoy the good moments.
2. Pain is something that you cannot protect your children against, and if you could, you would deny them their humanity. As they become capable of understanding, teaching them of the inevitability of pain in their lives is an important part of your role as a parent.
Your response to the pain you experience is your choice. You can choose to be scared of it and repress your memories of prior painful incidents, or you can choose to accept it and embrace it as an inevitable and essential part of life and who you are.
