WHAT’S WRONG WITH MARRIAGE?

 

In today’s world, marriage is often looked upon as something only a few people actually want to enter into. We all know of marriages that are literal battlegrounds, with spouses who fight tooth and nail on a daily basis. The children born in households like this quickly equate marriage as being something bad, and something they would do best to avoid when they mature into adults.

 

Many families are composed of spouses who hate and mock each other, and this type of situation often introduces abuse and infidelity into their marriage relationship. Divorce becomes commonplace, as married couple tire of being miserable living together as man and wife. Many who divorce would rather just live with someone else, than risk marrying the wrong type of person again.

 

When we have both parents and spouses with such a low regard of marriage, is it any wonder so many people avoid entering into a marriage relationship? Since most marriages have become so troubled, is it not smart to avoid them completely? Before you answer this question, you need to determine why so many marriages fail.

 

Matthew, chapter 19:

 

4: And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

 

5: And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

 

6: Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

 

Verse 4 tells us God made people male and female.

 

Verse 5 tells us God did this so men and women could marry and become one flesh.

 

Verse 6 tells us God does not intend for people who are married, to divorce.

 

God’s plan for His physical creation includes marriage, and no where does He endorse or allow alternatives to His plan:

 

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

 

If you are involved in ANY type of sexual relationship, and not married to the person you are having sex with, you are in deep trouble with God!

 

1 Corinthians 6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

 

This is an absolute statement of God, so don’t look for loopholes to justify fornication, adultery, or any other type of sexual activity. If you can’t control your passions, God has spoken to you in the Bible regarding the subject:

 

1 Corinthians 7:9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

 

That’s pretty plain, why not just accept what God says regarding this? Even God realizes there are some not interested in marriage, and He is OK with that as long as they don’t sin sexually in any manner:

 

Matthew 19:12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

 

While you would think Christians would not have to reminded of there scriptures, the truth is many church people live with people they are not married too. They have a million excuses to justify their wrongdoing, but not even one scripture to endorse their sinful practices.

 

If this is not bad enough, many parents allow their teenage and adult children to share their bed with members of the opposite sex outside a marriage relationship. To allow your children to do this, is to call God a liar and bring the judgment of God down upon your household. (for generations to come)

 

THE REMEDY:

 

If people who married would simply honor their marriage vows made before God and man, things would rapidly improve. We often pick and choose mates that are worldly, immature, and carnal to the core, and expect to live a wholesome and Godly life with them. Both men and women have lost touch with the roles God ordained them to live within a marriage relationship, and we wonder why we can get along with the spouse we vowed to love and take care of for life.

 

Marriage is a perfect and holy union, we are the ones who make it into something less. If we were not capable of living married life, God would not expect is to marry in the first place. Since He instituted marriage, you can be sure we are able to live life as a spouse in a way that is pleasing to God, and our mate.

 

Don’t settle for adjusting to a sinful relationship, when it is possible for you to marry and live life as God expects you too live. It is a lot easier to be led of God and marry, than it is to be led of your lust and sexual greed, and sin against your Creator and the one you lead into a life of sin with you. If you can remain pure and single, that is the ONLY exception to marriage God will understand and advocate.

 

Marriage provides us with a pure and undefiled way to satisfy our sexual desires, and it does so in a love-based, instead of a lust-based environment. Why live life on a guilt trip, when you can have the blessing of God on your relationship?  If you are allowing your children to have sex, think about what you are really doing to them in the sight of God!

 

Anything worthwhile is NOT a piece of cake, so don’t look on marriage as being a trouble free relationship. If married couples will honor the word of God regarding the institution of marriage, the “good times” will more than make up for any “rough spots” in the road. There is nothing as passionate as love-based sex, and children born into a relationship that is legal in the sight of God and man.

 

If you live life in submission to God and other lawful authorities, your peace and joy will be a witness as to the validity of a committed marriage relationship. As your children become adults they will want what their parents have, and be willing to wait for sexual pleasure until they marry. Those who claim to be believers but live in sin, are more guilty that worldly people who live together in sexual or alternative relationships.

 

If you are married and living in rebellion toward God and your spouse, shape up before you ruin your life, and the lives of those you profess to love. TAKE A STAND for righteousness, so others can see God’s ways beat our ways hands down…